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  • I am 500 years old, colonialism and Caucasianism

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    There are not too many ethnic groups around the world who can point to one specific event in history and say, “There, that’s where my race was born.” Usually, your ethnicity is something you’re aware of but is fuzzy and recedes into history. Not so for the Portuguese Eurasians of Malaysia (later, Singapore).

    This year is a Big Deal for us. It was in 1511 that Alfonso de Albuquerque invaded Melaka/Malacca and took the port by force. This was not the first time that the Portuguese tried to take Malacca, but they got thrown out in 1509 when the resident Sultan got wind of their plans. In 1511, a more prepared de Albuquerque and his armada returned to complete the conquest.

    Up to the point of Portuguese conquest, Malacca was an important trading port already centuries old. Over one hundred languages were spoken there and goods from as far away as Arabia and China were bought, sold and bartered. The avaricious Portuguese, stumbling across this financial jewel, of course had to have it and, in the process, destroyed it through a time of constant war, atrocities and strife.

    So the Portuguese were the first Western colonial power in the region. That lasted for less than 150 years until the Dutch invaded. Whatever else you say about the Portuguese, at least they believed in trying to assimilate with the native populations. (Hence, moi.) Not so the Dutch and, if you’re in any doubt about it, I suggest you talk to a knowledgeable Indonesian about their history under Dutch colonisation. (So much so that Indonesian patriots initially saw the Japanese invaders of WWII as liberators, until reality sadly showed them otherwise.)

    Then, after the Dutch, came the British and they managed to screw things up royally, as any impartial political observer of a young Malaysia’s founding precepts will tell you, before retreating almost sixty years ago.

    But the Portuguese Eurasians were there, through four colonial conquests (three Western and one Eastern), fleeing north, then south, as oncoming waves of invaders attempted to eradicate “half-breeds” from their patch of taken territory.

    While not wanting to actually (yuk!) marry us, it was the British who gave the Eurasians a start on the ladder of middle-class prosperity. Our European blood made us more palatable choices for posts as administrators, lawyers and public servants, a positive discrimination policy that the other races (rightly) resented. By the end of the nineteenth century, we were still Catholic (the Portuguese influence), but now owned our own landed properties and could afford servants of our own.

    So where are we now? From my estimates, the Portuguese Eurasian population numbers no more than twenty thousand throughout Malaysia and Singapore. Early this month, there was a giant parade and celebration in Malacca “celebrating” the 500th anniversary of the entry of de Albuquerque and his army of 1,200 men into the port. To my mind, that’s like the offspring of a rape celebrating the day her mother got violated.

    But we do that, don’t we? If the natives of Burkina Faso (and I’m using an hypothetical example here) had invaded and committed atrocities on the population of San Francisco back in the 1800s, I doubt that sequence of events would be celebrated with bands and fireworks a few centuries on. All I can do is look on, completely bemused, as it appears that we are prepared to excuse massacre after massacre because a Westerner did it.

    It goes further. Everybody tries to claim the “Eurasian” tag now. From the time when, as a teenager, I was described as a “slut” due to my race (all these half-breeds must fornicate at the drop of a hat, doncha know?), now it appears that every would-be model claims to be Eurasian and are lauded over in the press for their “Western features”, “blue eyes”, or whatever. All this, for a race that used to make other parents (Malay, Chinese, Indian) threaten to disown their children if even the whiff of a liaison with an Eurasian came up. Which is why, until very very recently, you get Eurasians only marrying Eurasians or Westerners. To be honest, nobody else wanted us.

    So believe me when I say, as a Portuguese Eurasian, looking back on half a millennia of personal history, that I don’t think it’s such a bad thing if we get diluted, genration by generation, and completely die out. The Portuguese themselves have never cared to establish any strong links with their communities scattered around the globe and the only value we seem to have in Asia is our connexion to some Western superiority trope that the continent still hasn’t managed to overthrow.

    In a so-called postcolonial world, we are still in thrall to Western fashion and while there are some Western concepts that should be taken up locally (fostering of innovation and creativity, participatory democracy, basic human rights, environmental awareness), that’s not what’s grabbing people by the long and straights. (Fyi, Asians don’t have short and curlies.) The people here seem to be more interested in the skin than the substance, the features rather than the ideas, Caucasianism rather than the categorical imperative.

    I call it Caucasianism but there should be a better term for this, the Asian equivalent of Orientalism, where the shallow features of a prevailing culture are used to infer deep (and, therefore, false) truth about that particular culture. In Caucasianism, we somehow conflate such trivia as the lack of epicanthic folds, the unhealthy pale skin, the height, the blue eyes, with sophistication and greater intelligence. This is a colonialist mentality far more pernicious and insidious than any Asia has suffered and we seem to have taken on its mantle eagerly. Asia really needs to grow up.

    * I’ll be out of action for the next two weeks. By the time I’m back, QUINTEN’S STORY should be out. Here’s hoping. Have a happy and safe holiday, if you are, and I’ll catch you mid-January.

  • Do the British even LIKE their children?

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    Last year, as we were driving around the neighbourhood, we noticed a banner up at the side of the road advertising Christmas Dinner at a nearby restaurant. With nothing planned for Christmas Eve, we decided to go there. And we did. It was stupendous. There was roast turkey and lamb, smoked salmon and mackerel, pasta, vegetables (including my fav, Brussel Sprouts) and a full range of desserts. Wine was offered at a special two-bottles-for-the-price-of-one, the tables were decorated and the staff were courteous, smiling and helpful. The best thing was, it was a buffet. We didn’t so much waddle, as roll, out the door at night’s end.

    I know this might be construed as racist but, just as the Chinese are generally seen as being industrious, Malays can throw extremely good parties. And even though all the staff were Malay (and thus Muslim), and there were unfortunately no pork products available (ham…sigh), the entire family was made to feel extremely welcome. There was even a Santa Claus (one of the staff) handing out little presents to all the kids who attended. I doubt anyone could have done it better.

    As you can imagine, after that wonderful night, we were waiting with bated breath for this year, hoping that the neighbourhood restaurant would do the same thing. What we forgot was this.

    Since last year, there has been a significant influx of expats into the area. British expats, mostly. And a group of them must have approached the management of the neighbourhood restaurant because, this year, we don’t have the dinner like we had last year. Oh no, this year, we have two parties. A kids’ party and, one and a half hours later, an adults’ party.

    This seems to be a peculiarly British and Australian thing, this division of…well, everything at a social event. (The Americans, from the Californian parties we attended, seem generally, thankfully, free of this kind of WTFery.) If there are Australians at a barbie, they’ll automatically divide into the men’s group and the women’s group, with a no-go area in between. (And, if you’re male and more interested in women, and thus cross the invisible line to go talk to said women, you’ll be regarded as a “poofter”, which is incredibly ironic as “poofter” is a derogatory term for a gay. If you’re a woman and more interested in talking to the men, well of course you’re a “slut”.)

    If you socialise with a bunch of Poms, they’ll inevitably throw an event where the kids have to disappear for hours on end while the adults have some fun. What’s interesting about this is that the Poms won’t organise an alternative to occupy the kids that aren’t supposed to be there, they’re just not supposed to be there, and it appears to be perfectly okay if their (and your) children are walking the streets or panhandling or something, as long as no carousing adult catches sight of one.

    Why I’m particularly bemused this year is that, of all the holidays of all the seasons of all of the year, you’d really expect CHRISTMAS to be a family event, wouldn’t you? I can understand a no-children rule at, say, a Valentine’s Day dinner or New Year’s Eve bash (and we’ve not attended more than a decades’ worth of said parties due to our little petals) but CHRISTMAS???? Good freakin’ grief!

    So there you go, another promising event shot to hell, and it’s all thanks to the British. Even when their colonising armies went home, their mentality obviously didn’t.

  • KDP Select appeals to my greed. Fails.

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    When I checked my email this morning, I noticed an interesting little note from KDP (Kindle Direct Publishing) in my Inbox. It said:

    We’re excited to introduce KDP Select…KDP Select gives you a new way to earn royalties, reach a broader audience, and use a new set of promotional tools.

    Right up front, Amazon hits you with the money:

    …KDP Select – a new option dedicated to KDP authors and publishers worldwide, featuring a fund of $500,000 in December 2011 and at least $6 million in total for 2012!

    Wow, you say, where do I sign up? Here’s the potatoes, disguised as meat:

    When you make any of your titles exclusive to the Kindle Store for at least 90 days, those with US rights will automatically be included in the Kindle Owners’ Lending Library and can earn a share of a monthly fund.  The monthly fund for December 2011 is $500,000 and will total at least $6 million in 2012.

    And, just to give you an example:

    For example, if total borrows of all participating KDP titles are 100,000 in December and your book was borrowed 1,500 times, you will earn $7,500 in additional royalties from KDP Select in December.

    Is that the sound of dribble hitting your keyboard that I hear?

    Okay, I’ll admit it. I thought about it. As Oscar Wilde said, “the only thing worse than being talked about is not being talked about”, and Sandal Press needs all the promotional help it can get. Speaking of promotion, did I mention that:

    You’ll also now have access to a new set of promotional tools, starting with the option to promote your KDP Select-enrolled titles for FREE for up to 5 days every 90 days.

    I (of course) have several problems with this model.

    1) The Kindle Lending Library, for a start, is not like a real library. In a real library, the library purchases a copy of a book before making it available for lending. If ten district libraries buy your book, that’s ten little royalties accumulating in your account. Amazon does no such thing, not even bothering with a token payment while it introduces lending for all Prime members across the entire United States…that’s equivalent to how many libraries?

    You may say that that’s what the lending library fund is for but I note one thing. You’re not told what the expected uptake of the library is and you can’t tell me that Amazon hasn’t already crunched those numbers. Amazon has crunched numbers up its wazoo and, further, is extremely secretive about much that surrounds its Kindle. They know, but they’re not telling. That may be good business for them — and it is — but lack of such knowledge on which to base decisions is not good business for the average self-publisher.

    2) I went and read the actual terms and conditions and it’s not quite as KDP put it in their email. To reiterate, the KDP email says:

    When you make any of your titles exclusive to the Kindle Store for at least 90 days, those with US rights will automatically be included in the Kindle Owners’ Lending Library and can earn a share of a monthly fund.

    There are two implications to this statement:

    (a) That you only need to make your title exclusive to Kindle for 90 days, after which it’s automatically included in KDP Select; and

    (b) There is a way to be included in the Kindle library without signing up for KDP Select. Or, to put it another way, if you read an “automatically”, you’ll assume that there’s a “manual” option somewhere.

    You would be wrong on both counts. Once you move to the small print under “KDP Select Terms and Conditions” (the actual meat), you’ll note that the answer to 2(a) is:

    [Clause 3] Once you include a Digital Book in KDP Select, your Digital Book will be in KDP Select for a period of 90 days. Your Digital Book’s participation will automatically renew for additional 90-day periods, unless you opt out through the KDP website before renewal. [their emphasis]

    and

    [Clause 1] When you include a Digital Book in KDP Select, you give us the exclusive right to sell and distribute your Digital Book in digital format while your book is in KDP Select. During this period of exclusivity, you cannot sell or distribute, or give anyone else the right to sell or distribute, your Digital Book (or content that is reasonably likely to compete commercially with your Digital Book, diminish its value, or be confused with it), in digital format in any territory where you have rights. [my emphasis]

    Get that? Even “in any territory where you have rights“! Wow!

    So, from my reading, you are only eligible for the fund if you’re in KDP Select. And you are enrolled in KDP Select for 90-day periods. And, during those 90-day periods (auto-renewed for your convenience) you guarantee exclusivity of your title to the Kindle store. Opt out of KDP Select (i.e. sell your ebook outside of KDP) and you opt out of the fund.

    What about 2(b)? Say you still are interested in being part of the library initiative. How do you manually add your title to the library? Well, here’s where it gets tricky, because, according to the initial Kindle Direct Publishing conditions:

    5.2.2 Kindle Book Lending Program. The Kindle Book Lending program enables customers who purchase a Digital Book to lend it subject to limitations we establish from time to time. All Digital Books made available through the Program are automatically included in the Kindle Book Lending program. However, for Digital Books that are in the 35% Royalty Option (as described in the Pricing Page), you may choose to opt out of the Kindle Book Lending program. … Digital Books that are in the 70% Royalty Option (as described in the Pricing Page) cannot be opted out of the lending feature.

    So, as all the Sandal books are in the 70% category, it looks like I have no choice. I’m part of the Lending Library. (I cannot check this because, of course, being in Malaysia, I can’t buy a Kindle ebook or even see Kindle ebooks that are for sale.) But it looks like I won’t get a cut of cash because I’m not giving Amazon exclusivity to my titles.

    3) I don’t like this model because, being in Malaysia, I can’t buy a Kindle ebook or even see Kindle ebooks for sale. Yes, I know I said that before but it’s so important, I thought I’d repeat it.

    What Amazon is doing with this model is making sure that if you don’t have an Amazon in your immediate geographic region, you don’t see ebooks. Any ebooks. Why? Because Amazon will/wants to have all the ebooks locked up in an exclusivity cage called Kindle. This is far worse than the current ridiculous situation of geographic territories in print publishing, with US and UK editions of the same book (and, btw, confirms why Amazon didn’t introduce the EPUB format for new Kindles, which is what most people were expecting…they want to keep the garden walled, folks. Maybe Bezos is channelling Jobs?). We can get around those limitations currently via such places as The Book Depository and, yes, Amazon.

    But that’s the print side of the fence. On the digital side of the fence, Amazon/KDP is being nothing short of a ruthless, censoring bastard. It’s hobbling authors by making their books available through only one channel (Kindle) and it’s hobbling readers by making ebooks available through only one channel (Kindle).

    I think one reason Amazon is introducing KDP Select is because of Kobo. Early last month, Kobo was bought by Japanese web retailer, Ratuken. One pithy quote is:

    “We’ve got a shared vision,” said Kobo CEO Michael Serbinis on the same call, noting that this shared vision includes Rakuten’s current users, who he called “50 million potential Kobo customers around the world.” Source

    Kobo releases books in EPUB, the format that Amazon recently snubbed with release of the Kindle Fire, and I’m sure Amazon is betting that Rakuten and its deep experience in e-commerce won’t matter a damn if every North American title is locked up by the Kindle, as KDP Select will do.

    I can’t be a party to this. Amazon initially launched KDP using such buzzwords as “freedom” and “choice”. But, lest you forget, Amazon is a business and those words were only marketing-speak, as we are quite definitely finding out now.

    I am NOT signing up for the KDP Select program. I will not be taking a cut of thirty silver coins of the Kindle Lending Library fund. This may mean other self-publishers get a bigger slice of that pie. So be it.

  • Caught in a vortex of fear and loathing

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    Also apologies, but I’m running on blog empty here. In my defence, I am heavily into editing. I’ve made the changes that DevEd came back with and am now going over QUINTEN’S STORY again, to make sure the changes aren’t messing around with anything else and that they, and the rest of the book, are as smooth as I can make it.

    This is normally the time when I wonder why the damn hell I wrote the book in the first place, because all I can see are amateurish marks, turns of phrase that make me cringe, and other characteristics that make me think I’m looking at a page I wrote when I didn’t know how to (write, that is).

    I’ll get over it around the three-quarter mark. I usually do. But, in the meantime, every sentence, every paragraph is a potential guillotine victim.

    In this frame of mind, I’m sure you’ll understand if I stay mute for another week. Have a good one and hopefully I’ll have something more productive to say next Friday.

  • The reluctant homeschooler, Part IV of IV

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    And so here we are. What began as a move of desperation now appears to me to be the only way to properly educate children. I understand that it’s not for everyone for a number of reasons.

    1. It requires that there is only one, maybe one and a half, breadwinners in the family. With the current economic assault on everyone by The Rich, this is becoming more and more difficult to achieve. However, in areas where homeschooling is not such an oasis in the desert as it is here, there may be a way of cobbling together a co-op system with a group of parents with varying skills and experiences.
    2. It requires a major throttling back of unrealistic expectations about what can be achieved in a given amount of time. (That, I believe, is where I went wrong with LD and I readily admit paying the price for my unreasonableness now.) Baby steps first….
    3. It requires an immense sense of confidence, not only in yourself but in your children.
    4. It requires constant adjustments and tweaking. No egos allowed here!

    The fact that those reasons appear contradictory indicates the complexity of mindset and expectations required if you’re going to make homeschooling work.

    Where does that leave the kids? One of the PUKS Masters disparagingly asked us what we were going to do with TW when we’d finished homeschooling him to Senior year/Form Six. “Tell him to go out and get a job, I suppose,” he said. It was only because, at that time, I was still holding hopes of having LD accepted there that I held the inevitable retort of calling him a pretentious, self-righteous, impolite wanker.

    “No,” I replied instead. “During that time, I’ll be preparing him for pre-University exams. I believe those are independent of schools.”

    I believe, if I have planned this right, that TW will be ready to take his pre-U exams when he’s 15. And, if so, it will mean that he would have spent no more than four and a half years in a formal school system.

    As for LD…well, we’re waiting. There was something that sparked in TW and he blossomed. Could the same happen with her? I see flashes of it every now and then. TW is living proof of the plasticity of intelligence and we are hoping for something similar with our daughter. But, in case that doesn’t happen, we still have the flexible system that she’s currently schooling under and that we’re constantly adjusting. There’s no way a traditional school system can hope to match the nimbleness of our current framework and, at this stage, I’m not even willing to put her back there to try.

    And so that’s the tale of the atheist homeschooler. I’ll keep you updated on the results.

  • The reluctant homeschooler, Part III of IV

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    We are now in the third quarter of 2011, by my retelling. Our overwhelming feeling is that our kids have been treated as nothing more than guinea pigs by people who had boasted to us about their years and experience in education. Years that we readily admitted we didn’t have. We fell for their spiel to “trust them”. And, by turns (with the one notable exception of Boon Lay), our children were ignored, assaulted, bullied, insulted and yelled out by people who were in positions of authority over them.

    I don’t know if I can adequately explain the sense of burning rage I still feel as I type these words, and that anger has not diminished. But still, despite all that, we had hopes for Prestigious UK School (PUKS for short). We went along and had several meetings with them.

    I pause now so I can give you some context. Our son? TW? The one who was “severely retarded”? He’s two years ahead of his age in English and at least one year ahead in Maths and Science. Putting him in a regular school, we thought, would actually stunt him at this stage. PUKS told us that school would begin at 8:30am and that kids would get home by 5:15pm. That was the equivalent of a full working day, plus homework on top of that. That would leave no time for TW to indulge in his other passions of movie-making, game design and learning graphics and computer animation (all of which he currently does outside homeschool hours).

    LD was another issue. There’s an old adage that says you should treat your children equally. Bullshit. Children are individuals and that means tailoring your demands to their personalities. However I was teaching was working with TW but was causing major tissue avalanches with LD. After some enquiries, I discovered a tuition system that was Kumon-like and close by. Encouraging independent working, they would take LD through Maths and English twice a week. But was this enough? We enrolled LD for those twice-weekly classes while we considered PUKS.

    Tbh, I considered PUKS the superior choice. I could work on TW at home and LD, a really sweet and caring kid, could do what was so important to her and develop relationships outside the family circle.

    I so wanted PUKS to be the answer. And then they turned out to be like everyone else we’d encountered. We heard the same old statements we’d heard before. “We have values that all children must adhere to….” “Our years of experience in education….” “You understand that, during the Primary years, we won’t be concentrating on academic performance at all….” “We have an excellent Sports programme….”

    There were two death knells. The first came when we couldn’t even get a provisional place for LD. Oh, they went on about what a wonderful child she is, based on a one-on-one interview they conducted with her, but they wouldn’t even give us a tentative answer as to whether she’d be accepted in PUKS. They would have to wait for a Psychologist’s Report and — and these are my words — how much work they would need to exert before they could give us their final decision. They had already told us that they were over-subscribed and so not every child would get in. And, once more, we felt we were being set up for a fall. (We’re still going through with the psychological assessment, but that will be for our own benefit.)

    The second was when the Head told us quite baldly at the end of our last discussion that we couldn’t expect their system (even with a given that there going to be a Learning Support component added) to cater to LD.

    And it was like a lightbulb exploding in my head. Hold on a sec, I thought. Right now, I do have a system that specifically caters to LD. To my surprise, she was really taking to the outside tuition classes and, in the alternate days when I was schooling her, I was seeing improvements in her attitude and the quality of her work. I was also working on other, multi-sensory methods to help her with Maths and, to a lesser extent because she doesn’t seem to need it so much, English. Add violin, Wushu, Dance, and UK-accredited Speech & Drama classes, and I was still spending less than RM6,000 a year and getting out of it (I thought) a pretty well-rounded child.

    PUKS was telling me that they were unable to be all things to all children and expected us to shell out RM60,000 for that first year of schooling (almost twice the average annual wage). Plus uniforms plus food plus extra-curricular activities plus a four-figure non-refundable registration fee, and so on.

    Why would I give up a totally personalised, completely customised, eminently flexible, lightweight system that was working, for one that was rigid, inflexible, ponderous, with no guarantees, at TEN TIMES THE PRICE???

  • I am an Australian citizen

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    That’s all.

  • Happy Polish National Day & new release!

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    Today is the 11th of November, and that means Polish National Day. It is particularly important this year for a personal reason tied in with my newest release…I thought that it would be nice to publish a small travelogue on our family’s recent trip to Poland and what better day to do that by than the country’s National Day?

    So, while it’s making its rounds of various etailers, I’m here to tell you that IT’S 10AM, WHY AM I STILL SOBER? is now available at XinXii and Smashwords. Because of today’s significance, I thought I’d give you an appropriate excerpt from the chapter on Kraków (appropriate, not because it has to do with Polish National Day but because it’s about a battle and Poles love battles; they’re very Klingon like that):

    The initial view [of Kraków] is favourable and entertaining, from the cobbled streets to the artistic, renovated buildings. I posed for a photo in front of one of the places where Stanisław Wyspianski (Stan-is-wahv Vis-pee-en-ski) once lived. (He moved around a lot, it seems.) I’ve been a fan of one particular work of Wys ever since I saw his take on the Battle of Grunwald (Groon-vault). Grunwald was where, five centuries ago, a whole bunch of mostly Germanic Crusaders went up against a whole bunch of mostly Poles and got their arses thoroughly whipped. (There’s a recreation every year right at the spot. One day, we’ll make it there.) Wys, although painting around the end of the nineteenth century, delivered an extraordinarily modern interpretation of one of the archetypal paintings (by national hero, Jan Matejko) of the battle.

    Matejko's painting of the Battle of Grunwald

    In essence it was an interpretation (or, er, parody) of a portrayal of a battle. Poles are generally aghast that I’d want a copy of such a parody of Matejko’s much loved and admired masterpiece but there’s such an unbridled exuberance and clear understanding of space to Wys’ work that I find myself smiling each time I see it.

    Wyspianski's parody of Matejko's painting

     

    I know I’m going to end this excerpt with an unfair question. After all, Matejko’s painting is an undoubted masterpiece, full of symbolism, a merging of three events during the historic battle, passion and emotion. BUT…which do you prefer?

    ***

    While IT’S 10AM, WHY AM I STILL SOBER? will be available at Amazon, and so on, I would really recommend that — should you consider purchasing a copy of the book — you get it from XinXii and that you get the PDF copy in particular. This is because there is quite a bit of advanced formatting and a fair number of photos in the book and PDF is still the best way to present such information. However, if you’re a diehard Amazon fan and can’t do without that format, then rest assured that you should have a copy available at Amazon US by the end of this coming weekend.

    I should have the first chapter (after the Introduction) of the book up at my website by the end of today, if you’re interested in reading a longer excerpt. IT’S 10AM, WHY AM I STILL SOBER? is 30,600 words long and will set you back US$2.99 It would be a nice gift for Thanksgiving or Christmas (hint hint) but I wouldn’t get it for any God-fearing, puritanical armchair traveller…unless you want them to have a heart attack. Your choice. (Never know, might be fun.)

    We shall return to regular (homeschooling) programming next week but, in the meantime, have a good weekend.

    POSTSCRIPT: I’ve never considered doing this before, hence the ad hoc nature of this offer, but if you can’t countenance XinXii and would still like to buy a copy of the book (and I really really think PDF is best), you can Paypal me the money and I’ll forward you the book via return email. Contact me at KS -at- KSAugustin -dot- com for the Paypal details if you’re interested in that option.

     

  • The reluctant homeschooler, Part II of IV

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    When I finally got my hands on the kids, and put them through their paces, I was appalled. We had been paying high school fees and I discovered that both kids had actually regressed. LD, at the age of eight, couldn’t even repeat the alphabet!

    But we had an advantage. Being foreigners, we fell straight through the cracks of local federal regulations. Thus, if I wanted to, I could teach or not teach my children however I pleased.

    J and I sat and discussed our options. There were a number of schools being built in our area. We would wait until one was open and enrol the kids there. In the meantime, I would homeschool. And that’s how it began. It was a move of desperation and we always thought that the time would come when we’d fold our children back into the traditional schooling mix.

    The first six months were the worst, as I well admit. Per an old blog post:

    Well, I had the kind of super-obsessive, “Asian tiger” parents that I detest but I have to admit they did a good job on brainwashing me. So I had to get rid of all that “it’s A’s or it’s nothing” shit (including the classic “you only got 99% for that exam; I refuse to talk to you for the entire day”) that made my own childhood such a misery. Forming new disciplinary pathways in my brain took months, to be honest. Months to relax into the kind of attitude that put comprehension, fostering an air of exploration, and questioning above 100-question drills on how to add mixed numbers. (Not that I don’t do that, but that’s usually at the end when the kids can do all that in their sleep!)

    And when I started to relax, I branched out a bit, searching out resources on the Net. (There are no local homeschoolers to talk to.) LD looked like she was suffering from both dyslexia and dyscalculia, but there were also flashes of brilliance that made me catch my breath.

    I totalled the amount of money that we had spent on school fees and told J that I was funnelling that amount into homeschooling. He readily agreed. I bought workbooks, reading books, learning systems and DVD courses. I set up a smartboard system to use at home. We bought the kids new laptops. We enrolled them in some external classes. And do you know what? With all that expense (and I spent money on whatever looked promising, figuring we’d assess its worth once we started using it) I still wasn’t spending a fifth of what we’d thrown down the drain at the local private school.

    That made us think. What exactly were we paying for in a private school?

    I would spend half a day teaching the kids, test them, and still give them enough remaining time for them to indulge in their own interests (which, increasingly, seem to encompass making their own movies and games). Given the choice, without any kind of persuasion on my part, our children would prefer to storyboard a short movie than sit down and watch TV.

    But how could this be? Weren’t we told that the “best” system was the public/private schooling system? That homeschooling parents were somehow “cheating” their children out of much-needed social and cognitive development? Yet, when I watched our own kids, that wasn’t what I was seeing at all.

    Something wasn’t gelling.

    As these heretical thoughts swirled around in my brain, two things happened. One very prestigious UK-based school announced that it was opening a campus ten minutes away from us. And LD started to burst into tears the moment she tackled any difficult problem.

  • The reluctant homeschooler, Part I of IV

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    Let me get one thing straight before I begin. J and I loved school. (I may not have liked what went on around school, like the bullying and the name-calling, but school itself…brilliant!) We were very good students ourselves. And, until fairly recently, were gung-ho proponents  of yer basic, federally-supervised, school system.

    Our story actually started back in Australia, when The Wast was at the beginning of his schooling career. Now, TW has always been a bit of a “different” child…shy, a bit obsessive and stubborn. But, as parents, we could always see the intelligence lurking under that shield of obstinate near-silence. In our ignorance, we expected teachers (i.e. people with actual degrees in Education) to be able to discern part of that too. They didn’t. What the teachers proved to us was that they were super-quick to jump to conclusions, even after admitting they had no training in pedagogy or child psychology, and we have the reports on our “severely retarded” and “highly autistic” son to prove it.

    When we moved to Singapore, and TW joined an International School (a move I was dead against, btw, because I had attended an International School and saw them as nothing more than social clubs for children), things didn’t improve. Again, he was accused of being developmentally challenged. When we paid for tests and got the results that said that he was “normal” (whatever that means), the school still didn’t believe it.

    With, we thought, nothing left to lose, we put TW in a publicly-funded Singaporean school. (Hi there, Boon Lay Garden Primary School!) And, for whatever reason, he thrived! He became one of the class monitors and started scoring straight As in his subjects. It was as if a light switch had been clicked on. We still don’t know what, why or how it happened.

    When we moved to Malaysia, we reluctantly made the decision to school the kids locally, and here’s where I start the tale of our second child, Little Dinosaur.

    Both children were emergency, premature births, but LD spent a month in the hospital’s Special Unit that TW didn’t. We were warned that her complicated birth would have ramifications, and the ramifications came home to roost while we were switching from Singapore to Malaysia.

    We put the kids in the top private school in Johor state at that time. And then, over the space of two years, we started to notice a deterioration in both our children’s performance. TW was bored and LD was being ignored in classrooms of 36 and 37 students. If you add the Great Tuition Scam, then it was a travesty.

    All the school seemed interested in was making as much money out of status-conscious parents as it could. But, if we wanted our children to be educated in English, it appeared we had no choice. We had to stick to private schools.

    The breaking point finally came when a repeat offender younger boy stabbed my daughter in the thigh with a pencil. The school actually forced LD, in front of the principal, vice-principal, her class teacher and the boy’s teacher, to say she “forgave” him and the school considered the matter closed. To my mind, that was coercion of the worst kind (where do I begin?) and there was only one solution: pull the kids out of school.

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